Confidence. We all want it, we admire it, we are sure life would be so much easier with it. And, the question is, “What is it, and how do I get it?”
What does confidence look like when we see it in others? What does it look like from the inside?
When we see someone who looks confident, they are not prone to hesitation. Or they are not flustered or rushed, and hesitate intentionally to deliberate. Confident people seem to be prepared. They’re calm, measured. They’re not sidetracked with emotional reactions. They’re fair. They keep the big picture in focus.
What is confidence from the inside?
Is it clarity of direction? Clarity of self-differentiation? Recognition of available resources, or acknowledgement of their absence? Recognition of our assumptions? Understanding that everyone has unique wisdom?
My job is to help people to see that they have these tools that can give them the confidence; the belief in their capacity and the acceptance when they don’t got it. It makes it a lot easier when we can get some outside affirmation of our abilities and unique strengths. With that information, they have the option to step beyond their comfort zone to provide the confidence that motivates and inspires those around them.
Next time, we’ll look at some simple tools to get more confidence.